[Proverbs 11:30]
light = points the way
[2 Cor 3] = we are the living Bible
We are the Body of Christ
How do you win friends?
- Building solid, healthy, balanced, wonderful relationships
In [Luke 10], it says that we should
- befriend the people first
- fellowship with them
- meet their needs
- then preach the gospel
people who are leaders are people who have mastered the art of relationships
the better you relate to people, the better everything around you gets.
Bible is NOT the book of advice or suggestions
Bible = book of
commandmentsmake your relationship with everyone work
if you dont know how to relate, you will fail.
10 general areas to learn to relate to people1) CommunicateCommunication is the key of life, two way street, two ears and one mouth,
as it says in the Bible be swift to hear and slow to speak. [James 1:19]
2) Be interested in the people in their world[Phillipians 2:3-4]
God shows His love by listening to you.
love = "I am interested in you!"
Be interested in the people,
by showing your interest in them, you are blessing them.
3) Make the people feel importanttell them how significant they are,
let others teach you something
eg. talk to your dad and ask him about how the war times are like,
and get a pen and a paper, write it down.
let him teach you something.
make your friends feel important.
4) Smile when you meet peoplesmile = "I like you, I am enjoying your presence"
always learn to smile, smile at everyone.
get rid of frowning, it attracts Satan.
5) Encourage peopleencourage = embolden the person, put in courage to that person.
everytime you encourage, put faith in them.
BE AN ENCOURAGER!
6) Be longsufferingBe patient with people,
be able to suffer for a very long time.
dont jump into judgmental conclusion about others,
dont assume the words.
assume the best.
God is positive, so be long suffering,
give people room to make mistakes or fail.
7) Respect peoplerespect people's title, private space.
dont become over-familiar.
respect their boundaries.
respect people's fathers.
eg. when people talk bad about their fathers, dont join in but instead encourage them.
eg. police gets beaten up most in domestic fights.
8) Esteem others as better than yourselfalways compliment others before yourself.
9) Use people's names more than normal.make people feel recognised and accepted.
10) Be complimentary of peoplepraise people extrovently, dont measure praise.
eg. compliment the children in front of their parents.
always compliment men on their work.
dont mention the negative, be positive and encouraging.
[Ephesians 6:1-3]
dont dishonour your parents
this verse is for everyone
"honour" = give lavishly
honouring them thru` your gifts, giving
whatever negative things that i have on my parents,
that is gonna be reflected on me next time,
because "what you sow, you will reap".
[Ephesians 6:4]
"provoke" = dont make unreasonable demands, dont show favourtism.
["Albert's story"]a parent's child was shouting and yelling in the supermarket,
and that parent said "calm down, calm down".
someone came over and compliment him saying that,
"what a good father you are,
you could tolerate your kids,
you wont get angry."
and albert told the person "Albert is my name,
I am calling myself to calm down!"
[Colossians 3:19] for husbands
[Ephesians 5:33] for wives
[1 Samuel 23:16] regards of friends
1) friends
strengthen your hand in God [v.16]
2) friends create
faith not fear [v.17]
3) friends
celebrate each other's victory [v.18]
4) friends
equip you for the future [1 Samuel 18:4]